Sometimes what you want is something a bit more low key, a more casual relationship instead of something long-term.Maybe you’ve just gotten out of a relationship and the last thing you want is to jump on particular horse again.That is about the same level you want to maintain with your date.
This doesn’t mean that panty-ripping, throw-each-other-against-the-wall sex isn’t going to follow (or is incompatible with romance, for that matter)… Not because there’s something wrong with it, but because being romantic or going on romantic, candle-lit dates implies commitment…
which is something you’re presumably not looking for.
But most of us come from a background where what’s considered acceptable “dating” behavior has a heavy tilt towards romance and monogamy.
It’s surprisingly easy to slip into the relationship frame without meaning to.
The problem is that they often forget that casual relationships require maintenance and effort, the same as a relationship leading towards commitment.
Just because there are no strings attached doesn’t mean that it’s a free-for-all.
The clearer everybody is on where they stand, the less chance there is for confusion, hurt and resentment.
When you’re still establishing the rules for your casual relationship, it is dick move that I’ve seen far too many people pull and a violation of the other person’s trust.
Not an inherently bad thing, but decidedly not a result you want if your goal is to keep to a no-strings relationship.
It’s also generally a good idea to keep things in the now.
Even little things like buying flowers or celebrating special occasions can reframe the interaction from “two people enjoying each other’s company without expectations” to “two people dating.” Of course, this doesn’t mean that you’re not supposed to have It just means that you need to be aware of the unspoken implication of your actions.